Your Wish Is My Command

Anonymous asked: "would u mind answering the ? here though? cos im not sure if they visit ur blog lol and thank u! and I know its random someone asking u for advice but u seem really mature. plus I have no one else to talk to so I figured an unbiased strangers oponion would be good. and its a new perspective"

Hi there *waves* 

So I’m guessing you must be really down recently too? [It’s normal to feel this way when you know that your relationship with a close friend is slowly breaking apart and that’s everything you didn’t wish for]- I was going through the same problem a few days/weeks ago and I still haven’t figured out anything. It makes me sad but I can’t really do anything because sometimes you have to let go and let the other person make a move [especially when you’re the only one trying and they NEVER make an effort]

But if you feel like the effort put into the relationship by the two of you was equal [half and half] than either of you should confront the other person. Talk to them! that’s the best way to solve any problem. Tell them how you feel and chances are they may be feeling the same way. If they aren’t then let them know what you have observed. Tell them if it bothers you and then propose a plan to fix it. Because no matter how hard you guys try to repress every little thing, it will come out in the wrong way or just build up to the point that you would think it’s worth it to just leave them behind [even if it’s hurting you] 

The third possible condition could be that they may be putting in a lot more effort into the relationship than you have and they finally got tired - so you are just now realizing that you guys are drifting apart whereas on her part it had happened a long time ago. A good way to test this would be to analyze your personality and their’s. Who is the quite one? Who talks more? Who pushes the other one to try new things and who is more laid back. Who is more sensitive and who shows more love through actions than words. [Here’s an extra tip on the side: If your friend/s pushes you to do something or gives you tips to get better or anything which may make you feel a little down and you may start thinking that they are insensitive.. THINK AGAIN. If they are your close friend/s they NEVER want to hurt you. They want everything that’s good for you. So if they are more than informal and just telling you to do things its either for your own good or they just love you too much to know you won’t feel bad so let it slip. Don’t take it on your heart.] After analyzing the personalities you should think about all the amazing things you guys did together. Try to remember how they behaved and how much they either cared or did not care. All these factors play an important role. If by the end of this test you feel bad and you want to make up than chances are either you may have done something wrong or you just really want them back. So it’ll give you a good boost to go and talk to them or give them a present to make up for everything [but do talk too- that’s imp] I really hope the other person is willing to listen. Most people can’t take citicisizm and they think every thing they are doing is right. That’s where you have to pick and choose your words. 

If she doesn’t listen than maybe she isn’t willing to mend the friendship. Maybe she doesn’t value it as much as you do. The good thing to do would be to move on. Do try a couple of times but there comes a time when you have to value your self respect more that’s when you know that it’s time to leave. And the Bff is not forever after all [that’s the hard reality- I’m sorry :( - but I learnt that the hard way too]

I hope I interpreted your question right and my answer helps :) Remember friends are really special you don’t want to lose them just like that. 

P.S: An important thing I forgot to mention was that also look at external factors [this includes friends/ people who maybe interfering in your friendship] 

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posted 5 years ago